Forgiveness, and Oneness through Ho`oponopono is about opening doors to greater understanding, allowing, and deeper awareness of self and of life;
One's purpose as a part of the whole of humanity.
Knowingly and unknowingly you impact ALL through your thoughts, words, deeds and actions.
Ho`oponopono is a process of letting go of toxic (or separating) energies within you to become an allower of Divine thoughts, words, deeds and actions, and the experience of Oneness with All That Is.
Practicing Ho'oponopono is simple and healing. It does, however, require the acceptance of the idea that we are all connected, therefore we must take responsibility for the conditions within ourselves that manifest in other people in our life as undesirable energies, such as fear, anger, jealousy, boredom, etc.
Ho'oponopono is a prayer to yourself (as part of the Whole) for whatever toxic thought or belief has manifested itself in your life as anything other than True Love, Joy and Harmony, which is our Divine Birthright.
I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME I LOVE YOU THANK YOU GOD BLESS YOU
This is the general idea, but the wording that is right for you will come to you.
Forgiving someone who has hurt us deeply is extremely difficult for most people. I think the reason is because we’ve been raised to believe that when we forgive someone, we make what they did okay.
But if we look to the Huna beliefs of the ancient Hawaiians, we see that forgiveness, or Ho‘oponopono, is really about letting go of our hurt and anger and loving ourselves in order to heal.
On the energy plane, negative emotions are like hooks in the energy field that tie us to the person who wronged us. The more emotion we give to it, the stronger the hooks and the trauma get. By forgiving the person who wronged you, what you are really doing is draining the emotional charge from that incident or relationship. It sends a signal to your subconscious that you are ready to let go of it and move on. When we can let these deep hurts and angers go instead of hanging onto them, we free ourselves for new and better experiences. When we hold onto this stuff, we tend to relive the pain and then we fear it will happen again. The more we focus on it and worry about it and put emotion into it, the more we tend to attract it into our life. This then becomes a viciously repeating cycle of reinforcement.
Now comes the really difficult part for most of us to accept – if everything is energy and intention and we can create our reality – then on some level (karmic or otherwise) we chose to have that experience for our personal growth. This is hard to take, because who would consciously choose to have painful events in their life? If there is an afterlife and we’ve all lived before, then maybe we made those choices so that we could experience the entire spectrum of human triumphs and failings. Maybe in a past life we were the aggressor and we now want to see what it feels like to be the victim. Or maybe we made a contract to overcome trauma in this life, so that we could gain strength and the wisdom for future greatness. That is why it is so important that we also forgive ourselves for choosing to do this.
By forgiving yourself and others for your experiences, you acknowledge that it happened but you are choosing to let it go. You alert the subconscious that you choose never to experience this again. When you do this you open the way for positive energy to enter your life and for you to create better experiences for yourself in the future.
"Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients - without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
"When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.
"However, I heard it again a year later I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono'. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does - but that's wrong.
"The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist.
He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.
"Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.
"'After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,' he told me. 'Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.' I was in awe. 'Not only that,' he went on, 'but the staff began to enjoy coming to work.
Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.'
"This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: 'What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?'
"'I was simply healing the part of me that created them,' he said. I didn't understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life - is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
"Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don't like - is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.
"I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him, and in ho 'oponopono, means loving yourself.
"If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal, you do it by healing you."
I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?
"I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again" he explained.
"That's it?
"That's it.
"Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.
"Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email message that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message.
"This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you,' I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.
"Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying 'I love you,' I somehow healed within me what was creating him.
"I later attended a ho'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He is now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive.
He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will rise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.
"'What about the books that are already sold and out there?' I asked.
"'They aren't out there,' he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. 'They are still in you.' In short, there is no out there. It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves.
"Suffice It to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you. When you look, do it with love."
Dr. Joe Vitale is the author of way too many books to list here. His latest title is "The Attractor Factor: 5 Easy Steps for Creating Wealth (or anything else) From the Inside Out." Register for his monthly complimentary ezine at http://www.mrfire.com/
